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“Boys won’t be boys. Boys will be what we teach them to be.” Ben Hurst.
Statistically, one in three women experience physical, emotional or sexual violence at least once in their lives. People like Ben Hurst challenge the ideas in our society that cause this type of behaviour.
Hurst works for a charity called Beyond Equality. He visits schools, universities and the work place and gives talks about masculinity and gender stereotypes. Sadly, when he asks boys or men to think of words the describe women, the answers are often, ‘Vagina. Kitchen. Makeup. Sandwiches.” When he asks for words about men, he gets, “Strong. Leader. Breadwinner. Penis.” This says a lot about the lack of respect for women in society. And that lack of respect makes women easy targets for violence.
Hurst’s workshops help boys and men to re-think their ideas about women. He asks them to think about where these ideas come from and who decided that they were the truth. He says, “We try to build a picture of what masculinity actually means for us, and how it disproportionately affects everyone else.”
Ex-policeman Graham Goulden is also an advocate in the fight against gender-based violence. He feels that words and language are the culprits leading to misogyny. He trains people to become active bystanders. He does this by teaching men to stand up to sexual harassment and misogynistic jokes.
Goulden says, “Bystander training reduces violence by encouraging people to speak out, to be brave and to confront the uncomfortable.” Basically, it teaches men to be part of the solution, not the problem. Goulden says that the training helps men to become more conscious of their views, language and attitudes towards women, and to adapt them. Why? Because violence starts in the vision society has of women and the language it uses to speak about women.
Goulden became a police officer to fight against violence. But he quickly realised that he was fighting a losing battle. So, he decided to help educate people against violence. He wants to prevent violence, not manage it.
The world needs more men like Ben Hurst and Graham Goulden. Perhaps you are one of them?
For more info:
at least = au moins
gender = sexe (féminin/masculin)
breadwinner = gagne-pain
lack of = manque de
gender-based = déterminé par le sexe
a culprit = un coupable
a bystander = un témoin
to stand up to = tenir tête à
to speak out = dire ce que l’on pense
to fight a losing battle = mener une bataille perdue d’avance
to prevent = empêcher